This letter dates back from seven (7) years ago, but it’s not impossible that even up to this date, most of us Filipinos, both living here in our own country and working overseas, could still grasp a lesson and value or more from the author’s very moving Love Letter to Filipinos. This letter compares and contrasts the way of living of Americans and Filipinos and it serves as a proof of how strong the Filipinos truly are even in the midst of hardships. And of course, this letter also emphasizes on how deep the Filipinos’ bond is to their family.
Read the Full Love Letter to Filipinos below:
I am writing to thank Filipinos for the way you have treated me here, and to pass on a lesson I learned from observing the differences between your culture and mine over the years.
I am an expatriate worker. I refer to myself as an OAW, an overseas American worker, as a bad joke. The work I do involves a lot of traveling and changing locations, and I do it alone, without family. I have been in 21 countries now, not including my own. It was fun at first. Now, many years later, I am getting tired. The Philippines remains my favorite country of all, though, and I’d like to tell you why before I have to go away again.
I have lived for short periods here, traveled here, and have family and friends here. My own family of origin in the United States is like that of many Americans—not much of a family. Americans do not stay very close to their families, geographically or emotionally, and that is a major mistake. I have long been looking for a home and a family, and the Philippines is the only place I have lived where people honestly seem to understand how important their families are.
I am American and hard-headed. I am a teacher, but it takes me a long time to learn some things. But I’ve been trying, and your culture has been patient in trying to teach me.
In the countries where I’ve lived and worked, all over the Middle East and Asia, it is Filipinos who do all the work and make everything happen. When I am working in a new company abroad, I seek out the Filipino staff when I need help getting something done, and done right. Your international reputation as employees is that you work hard, don’t complain, and are very capable. If all the Filipinos were to go home from the Middle East, the world would stop. Oil is the lifeblood of the world, but without Filipinos, the oil will not come from the ground, it will not be loaded onto the ships, and the ships will not sail. The offices that make the deals and collect the payments will not even open in the morning. The schools will not have teachers, and, of course, the hospitals will have no staff.
What I have seen, that many of you have not seen, is how your family members, the ones who are overseas Filipino workers, do not tell you much about how hard their lives actually are. OFWs are very often mistreated in other countries, at work and in their personal lives. You probably have not heard much about how they do all the work but are severely underpaid, because they know that the money they are earning must be sent home to you, who depend on them. The OFWs are very strong people, perhaps the strongest I have ever seen. They have their pictures taken in front of nice shops and locations to post on Facebook so that you won’t worry about them. But every Pinoy I have ever met abroad misses his/her family very, very much.
I often pity those of you who go to America. You see pictures of their houses and cars, but not what it took to get those things. We have nice things, too many things, in America, but we take on an incredible debt to get them, and the debt is lifelong. America’s economy is based on debt. Very rarely is a house, car, nice piece of clothing, electronic appliance, and often even food, paid for. We get them with credit, and this debt will take all of our lifetime to pay. That burden is true for anyone in America—the OFWs, those who are married to Americans, and the Americans themselves.
Most of us allow the American Dream to become the American Trap. Some of you who go there make it back home, but you give up most of your lives before you do. Some of you who go there learn the very bad American habits of wanting too many things in your hands, and the result is that you live only to work, instead of working only to live. The things we own actually own us. That is the great mistake we Americans make in our lives. We live only to work, and we work only to buy more things that we don’t need. We lose our lives in the process.
I have sometimes tried to explain it like this: In America, our hands are full, but our hearts are empty.
You have many problems here, I understand that. Americans worry about having new cars, Filipinos worry about having enough food to eat. That’s an enormous difference. But do not envy us, because we should learn something from you. What I see is that even when your hands are empty, your hearts remain full.
I have many privileges in the countries where I work, because I am an expat. I do not deserve these things, but I have them. However, in every country I visit, I see that you are there also, taking care of your families, friends, bosses, and coworkers first, and yourselves last. And you have always taken care of me, in this country and in every other place where I have been.
These are places where I have been very alone, very tired, very hungry, and very worried, but there have always been Filipinos in my offices, in the shops, in the restaurants, in the hospitals, everywhere, who smile at and take good care of me. I always try to let you know that I have lived and traveled in the Philippines and how much I like your country. I know that behind those smiles of yours, here and abroad, are many worries and problems.
Please know that at least one of us expats has seen what you do for others and understands that you have a story behind your smiles. Know that at least one of us admires you, respects you, and thanks you for your sacrifices. Salamat po. Ingat lagi. Mahal ko kayong lahat.This “Love Letter to Filipinos” is by David H. Harwell, PhD, a former professor and assistant dean in the United States. He is also a published author and a son of a retired news editor. This letter was published on INQUIRER.NET columns on February 17, 2013.
Did this Love Letter to Filipinos Inspire you?
A foreigner fell in love with us, Filipinos, our country, and of course, our unique traits, so there’s no reason why can’t we. Whether you have already come across this heartfelt Love Letter to Filipinos before or have just read it now, let its message sink in. All of us, Filipinos who are currently in our own country and Filipinos living and working abroad, let’s all be proud of what’s good in us and let’s accept and learn from our flaws.
There might be times when we forget how strong and kind we, Filipinos, truly are because of a lot of things that are currently going on, and maybe also because of the personal difficulty in life that you are facing as of the moment, but let this Love Letter to Filipinos remind you that you’re a Filipino, which means that no matter what hardships or challenges life throws at you, you can overcome it with your innate Filipino characteristics – resilient, kind, hardworking, and have a big heart for your family, friends, and other people who come across your life.
Let’s All Stay as Resilient, Especially Now!
This news isn’t new to most of us anymore since it is already all over the Internet, Social Media, and TV – the COVID-19 or previously called the 2019 Coronavirus has already affected many people around the globe and it has already even reached our country. So to our fellow Filipinos who are currently in other countries in the middle of all of this COVID-19 concerns, stay resilient for yourself and of course for your family.
For those of us who are in the Philippines, let’s all keep our resilience as well. Difficulties in life, such as the presence of COVID-19, will pass in time, so until then let’s all hold on tight and stay as strong as possible.
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